What Can You Learn From A Mayonnaise Jar And Coffee About Life?
Posted by Ilka Flood | Posted in Personal Development | Posted on 05-03-2010
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Sometimes I feel I write this blog just as much for myself as for you, my visitors. I have been extremely busy lately. Learning new things, figuring out new WordPress plugins, and gadgets and widgets. I’m almost at the point of burnout.
You can only burn the candle at two ends for so long.
Last night, while laying in bed, unable to sleep because my mind was still going a thousand miles an hour, I remembered this story below. I love motivational and inspirational stories. Lately I’ve been putting them into custom greeting cards and sending them to my customers, team mates, friends and family.
So here’s the story …
The Mayonnaise Jar and Coffee
When things in your life seem almost too much to handle, when 24 hours in a day are not enough, remember the mayonnaise jar… and the coffee…
A professor stood before his philosophy class and had some items in front of him. When the class began, wordlessly, he picked up a very large and empty mayonnaise jar and proceeded to fill it with golf balls. He then asked the students if the jar was full. They agreed that it was.
So the professor then picked up a box of pebbles and poured them into the jar. He shook the jar lightly. The pebbles rolled into the open areas between the golf balls. He then asked the students again if the jar was full. They agreed it was.
The professor next picked up a box of sand and poured it into the jar. Of course, the sand filled up everything else. He asked once more if the jar was full. The students responded with an unanimous “yes.”
The professor then produced two cups of coffee from under the table and poured the entire contents into the jar, effectively filling the empty space between the sand. The students laughed.
“Now,” said the professor, as the laughter subsided, ” I want you to recognize that this jar represents your life. The golf balls are the important things – your God, family, your children, your health, your friends, and your favorite passions – things that if everything else was lost and only they remained, your life would still be full. The pebbles are the other things that matter like your job, your house, and your car. The sand is everything else – the small stuff.”
“If you put the sand into the jar first,” he continued, “there is no room for the pebbles or the golf balls. The same goes for life. If you spend all your time and energy on the small stuff, you will never have room for the things that are important to you. Pay attention to the things that are critical to your happiness. Play with your children. Take time to get medical checkups. Take your partner out to dinner. Play another 18. There will always be time to clean the house and fix the disposal. Take care of the golf balls first, the things that really matter. Set your priorities. The rest is just sand.”
One of the students raised her hand and inquired what the coffee represented.
The professor smiled. “I’m glad you asked. It just goes to show you that no matter how full your life may seem, there’s always room for a couple of cups of coffee with a friend.”
That really puts things in perspective, doesn’t it? I’d really love to hear your thoughts.
To Your Massive Success!
Ilka Flood
The Enlightened Networker
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Hey Ilka,
What a great story! It shows you that no matter how busy you think you are, you still have room for more.
Thanks for sharing it. Now, I’m going to tell the story to my wife. She is going to think I’m a scholar.
I’ll let her know…where I got it from.
Have a wonderful weekend…
Josh
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Thank you, Josh! Wish I could take all the credit but I can’t. I got that story from somewhere … can’t remember where.
… And yes, you always have room for more. But don’t forget what’s MOST important
Enjoy your weekend!
Ilka
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Hey Ilka,
Great Post, I really love this story. I would like to incorporate it into my seminar teaching if you don’t mind. You really made some great points about life here.
I understand the feeling of burnout. The best way to overcome burnout is to set small goals, and celebrate the small victories. Not to plug myself, but I have a post that I think could help you out a little. I set it to go there when you click my name.
You gave me a lot of great material to think about in this post, I would like to reciprocate the favor if possible.
I love the look of this site by the way. You have a lot to be proud of here.
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Hey Chris,
Thank you so much for your kind words and for your great advice! It’s always truly appreciated.
I read the article you linked me to. WOW! Copied & pasted it into my “BEST OF …” folder
Btw. you and your wife make a cute couple. I wish you all the blessings in the world.
As far as the story above … I don’t remember where I got it originally. It’s been on my machine for years. As far as I’m concerned you’re certainly welcome to use it.
Enjoy your weekend!
Ilka
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Thank you Ilak for taking time to share that wonderful story! It reinforced my actions of taking my sons to the zoo just as I found an interesting & free place to post an ad. I had to force myself to do the right thing. Besides, the site will be there after they are asleep and dreaming of the animals at the zoo! LOL
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Ilka Flood Reply:
March 6th, 2010 at 6:30 pm
Hey Teresa,
Thanks for dropping by! I am so glad that I have inspired you to take your boys to the zoo. You know, our kids are only little for a short while.
I know they will be thankful to you … and you will feel great too.
Have an awesome weekend!
Ilka
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I love it Ilka! It’s very true. Sometimes I get so wrapped up in trying to keep up with everything, the important things go to the wayside and I have to remind myself the my little guy will only be little once!
Thanks again for the reminder. I will definately put this one in a “reminder” file : )
Hope you are having a great weekend!
Twila
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Ilka Flood Reply:
March 7th, 2010 at 11:12 am
Hey Twila,
Thanks for stopping back by!
I can so relate. It’s easy to get ‘wrapped up’ and forgetting the world around us.
And you’re absolutely right, that little guy of yours will be a young man way too soon. Enjoy the precious moments of NOW.
Be blessed and have a great week!
Ilka
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Doing a little clean up on my mail box and came across this that I missed. Ilka this is so true and beautiful. I am always lying in bed unable to sleep beacuse of OH!!! what a day I have just had. Now I will be able to reflect back on these words and have a better prospect of what to do.
The very next burnout I will definitely remember the mayonaise jar and coffee and share these inspiring words with others. Thanks
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Ilka Flood Reply:
March 20th, 2010 at 7:31 pm
Hi LouAnn,
Thank you for taking the time out of your busy schedule and come over to leave me your thoughts. I truly appreciate it.
LouAnn, my friends Josh Garcia and Chris Owen (you can find their links above) taught me how to prevent burnout.
Josh recommended cutting up my tasks into “bite-size” pieces or 15 minute increments to make them more manageable.
And Chris taught me to celebrate the little successes along the way to may main goal.
I think that was great advice that could help you as well. Try it out and let me know.
In the meantime, have a wonderful week!
Ilka
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